The Ultimate Guide to Holding a Couples Cacao Ceremony

What is a Couples Cacao Ceremony?

A couples cacao ceremony is a ceremonial gathering where partners drink cacao together as a symbol of their connection and commitment to each other.

Cacao is a powerful plant medicine known for its ability to open the heart and facilitate deep emotional healing. During a couples cacao ceremony, partners are guided through a series of activities designed to enhance their connection and bring them closer together.

There are many benefits to participating in a couples cacao ceremony. By drinking cacao together, partners can:

Connect on a deeper level

Enhance their communication and understanding

Foster intimacy and deepen their connection

Create a space for emotional healing and release

Celebrate and strengthen their relationship

Creating a sacred space for your ceremony 

Consider dimming the lights, lighting candles, burning incense and playing soft music to create a relaxing atmosphere. You may also want to set up cushions or blankets for added comfort for you and your partner to sit together. 

Prepare the cacao 

Use ceremonial grade cacao as this typically will have higher levels of beneficial compounds such as antioxidants, minerals, and mood-enhancing ingredients 

Start by heating water or a milk of your choice in a saucepan on the stove until it’s warm but not boiling hot. Boiling cacao at high temperatures can alter its taste and potentially degrade its beneficial compounds.

Once warm, reduce the heat to low and add your ceremonial-grade cacao to the saucepan. Stir the cacao gently as it melts into a smooth, creamy texture.  

Set your intentions 

Before you begin your ceremony, take some time for both of you to discuss your intentions and what you hope to achieve from the experience. This could be anything from having a deeper, sexual and sensual connection, better communication, forgiveness, healing,  spiritual growth or clarity on your relationship and how better to manifest shared goals. 

The ceremony 

Once the cacao is prepared, pour it into cups. You can each have your own cup, or you may choose to share from one. Take a moment to connect with your senses and inhale the rich aroma. 

Before drinking, hold your cups in your hands and take a moment to connect with the energy of the cacao and of your partner. Close your eyes if you'd like, and express gratitude for the cacao and for each other.

Take small, slow sips of the cacao. Allow yourself to fully experience its flavour and texture. As you drink, focus on your breath and any sensations in your body. Notice how the cacao makes you feel physically, emotionally, and spiritually.

Close the ceremony with gratitude 

After finishing your cacao, take some time to share your experiences with each other. You can discuss any insights, emotions, or sensations that arose during the ceremony. Be open and receptive to each other's perspectives, and listen with compassion and understanding.

Conclude the ceremony by expressing gratitude to each other, to the cacao, to the Universe or to a higher power you may believe in. You can end with a hug, a kiss, or a simple moment of shared silence.

Holding a couples cacao ceremony can be a transformative experience for partners. By drinking cacao together, you can connect on a deeper level, enhance your communication, and celebrate your relationship. With the right preparation and intention, your couples cacao ceremony will be a meaningful and memorable experience for both you and your partner.